Frustrating fascinations
I am not sure when it all began, but even forty years later I can still remember some childish ailment: and it may have been the travel fever!
For I have always wanted to explore. Even if it is only within fifty miles of home.
I can honestly say I have never been really bored, not absolutely bored.
Perhaps in a Valium doze at times.
I bought a globe of the world with a light inside it some years ago and love to sit turning it round and round enjoying harmless adventures in remote lands. Visiting places I have dreamt of going. Like America and the Pacific Islands.
I used to save my pocket money to just go on a day’s excursion on the train.
We must take the advantage now to do whatever our visions are.
Do you actually know what it is you want from life???
Every schoolchild wants to grow up, so quickly, suddenly it happens and you’ve arrived at the age of consent. Then you get married or in today’s world one “has a partner” then you become fixed for a while with commitments.
Which aren’t bad but it has restrictions. As far as my private observations go. I see people as they grow older becoming more involved in their work and daily surviving. Having even less time to enjoy the years allotted them.
When the sun shines you feel obliged to clean the car or the house or the garden instead of actually “doing” whatever it was you really “wanted” to do.
Feeling guilty if you go for a walk or ride or sit and read or sketch.
This guilt complex is a real pain.
I have heard it said: “I wish I could just walk out of the house leaving things as they were and not feeling guilty that I have not tidied up”
Its distracting to have this “other stuff” on your mind and you can’t really unwind unless you feel that you have done something constructive. Isn’t it a big pain to be one of these people?
I have changed from being one of “those people”. TO HELL, I say, go play. Do whatever it takes. Drag your mind from obsessive thought. Focus. GO PLAY.
It may be alike to carrying a cat by the tail for a few people, as their partners are not the type to accept it when you have fun doing whatever you want and they are at work earning a crust for you to pay the for the horse. That you bought to have fun with in the first place.
“We can believe what we choose. We are answerable for what we choose to believe”.
I have an overflowing mind, a frolicking mind with thoughts jumping like children playing out of overflowing energy. I try to give my happiness to others. But this doesn’t work as true happiness comes from within the individual. You can’t give it away. So a sage tells me, who knows of such things. But Ile keep on giving it away.
Words written with simplicity of emotion demonstrate how affection, fear and conviction can be shaped by the written language so that they can sing for centuries. Stirring all that read them hundreds of years later in the direction of those same emotions. Writing offers the opportunity to express our feelings, especially when the soul is undergoing a particular disturbing attack.
Playing with horses is soothing for the mind and positively is therapeutic.
Some people can’t admit to each other the difficult or seemingly impossible situations life presents and sees that even tragic and unhappy events can be seen from another angle, liberating us from narrow visions.
Humour allows two people to enjoy each others company even as they consider some of the serious and painful aspects of every day living without falling into despair.
Its helpful to have friends who can listen to us and point out and offer a different set of perspectives, or even simply a conversation in which our defensive beliefs can be examined and perhaps relaxed.
Lack of communication and awareness was the problem with two horses I have been visiting. My idea was to alter the thinking pattern of the owner. With people it’s more than a lack of communication the problem has deeper roots. One partner doesn’t let her or his thoughts and feelings come into the open.
Some people allow events to merely “happen” passively, with blinkers on their eyes.
They don’t express strongly enough to allow the other to see that something must be done to “save” the relationship from failure.
I am talking of the relationship with your horse. But you can see the same applies to human relationships. Some people fabricate an explanation for the failure or conflict never allowing a true awareness or insight. Self-examination is more effective than anger or resentment.
I suggested to a man who called me to help him with a twelve-year-old mare. He was experiencing difficulties in catching and leading her. She had effectively taught him to come to her so she led him.
He didn’t have confidence in himself to start with. He also didn’t look at the horse’s point of view of things. He tried to force his idea upon the horse. A horse reacts with fear, it runs away from it. In fact I’m a little that way. So require guidance.
The horse has to have confidence in you first. So does your partner.
The horse slowly begins to gain confidence in the human, it has to become part human and you have to become part horse.
The horse has to figure out which is harder, going away or staying. What we are doing is helping him make his decision, which ultimately puts us in the leadership role and in control of the situation. I simply talk to a horse in a way that they understand:
I was trying to let the horse know. As long as she stands still and faces me in the arena we could both stand quietly. But if she didn’t, she’d have to work and work at the pace I dictated.
I swung my rope above my head forcing her to keep up whatever pace I asked for.
She made half dozen circles to the left then I cut her off and forced her to circle to the right. I noticed her throw a glance in my direction.
That warranted a stop on my part to reward her for a proper response. I stepped backwards; she slowed to a stop and turned to face me.
This wasn’t in a round pen I was in a large outdoor school. Apparently all the horse needed was a little direction. In her mind, the proper way to be caught was to run around for an hour because that’s what her owner had taught her. Once she was shown how to stand still when somebody approached, she decided that was a much easier way to go. Look within for motivation no one is your answer “no one will complete you except you”. Go play with your horses: I say, “ Be kind, be considerate and be consistent”. Appreciate life: adios GG